January is always filled with planning, doing, and organizing. February always seems to have a general feeling of “running behind.”
It’s easy to see what’s missing, what’s still left undone, and what’s a mess, instead of looking at what you did accomplish.
I leave a lot undone.
- Last week I didn’t do much cooking, but I did keep my house clean.
- The week before that I didn’t do much cleaning, but I did potty-train my child.
- And the week before that, I didn’t do any paperwork, but I did cook dinner every night.
I would much rather look at what I was able to do. Anything I accomplish makes things better, even if I don’t do it all. In this season of my life, normal means some things don’t get done.
I completely understand the feeling of running behind. As a mom, my work really is never finished. There’s always something being used, eaten, or messed up. But if I always feel like I’m behind, then I can never rest.
I’ve been tired for weeks because of pregnancy (and not having caffeine every morning). I hope to have more energy soon, but then I’ll be in the middle of moving. After that, we have a full calendar of birthdays and events. There will always be something happening — that’s how life is.
I’m only behind if I think normal should be perfect.
I would love it if I could do everything, but I am not that awesome. What I try to do instead is rotate what I focus on, so everything gets at least some attention.
I’ve read several excellent blog posts lately about refining expectations and focusing on the basics:
- Living Simply Saturdays: Lowering my expectations and giving myself a break — from Keeper of the Home
- Climbing Out of the Mess – Day 1 — from Laurel Plum Online
- Back on Track — from Remodeling This Life
- Let’s Be Real — from This is My Life