Some of you asked about Sunday being a restful day. Here’s what it looks like at our house.
On a usual Sunday we go to a church service in the morning and then come home and change into comfy clothes. We eat brunch at home or go down the street to get coffee. (Brunch…doesn’t that sound fancy? It’s just scrambled eggs and bacon.) We do whatever we want after that, maybe read or go outside. Watch football. Naps are a sure thing. Supper is easy or we might go out for cheap fajitas. Fun Sundays are a predictable part of our weekly routine.
That’s what I think of as a day of rest.
A day off.
When Doug comes home from work, he gets to leave his work behind at the office. When I’m at home, I look around and see a bunch of work that still needs to be done. There is laundry, the kitchen needs to be cleaned, and the floors are messy. Those things won’t go away. Once the dishes are washed, a cup is set in the sink. As soon as all of the laundry is done, a pair of socks gets tossed on the closet floor.
The only way to stop working is to choose to take the day off. You can’t wait for the work to be done, because it never will be. You can work all the time until you don’t even remember why you’re working.
That’s why I choose to ignore the work on Sunday, even though part of me wants to do a load of laundry to get a jump start on the week. It helps if I think of Sunday as the last day of the weekend, instead of the start of the new week.
How to take the day off:
Plan ahead for it. On Friday I do a last bit of cleaning to prepare for the weekend. I check the fridge to make sure there is enough food for meals and snacks to enjoy.
Get going on Saturday. Saturday mornings I’m pretty tired, and I’m tempted to sleep in and not do anything. I try to keep in mind that if I don’t accomplish things on Saturday, then I’ll have to do them on Sunday. Procrastination is not restful. I coach myself to get moving so that I can have the full day off on Sunday.
Eat simple food, unless you really like to cook.
Enlist family help. We don’t do much house cleaning, but we do basics like washing the dishes after supper and picking up after ourselves as we go. We do it together so that it goes quickly and it’s not a burden on one person.
But what if…
What if you work outside the home, and the weekend is the only time you have to get things done? If you’re a mom and you also work, then you’re working two jobs. It’s just as important (if not more so) for you to have a regular day off if at all possible. Nancy said,
In order for me to have a good Monday (and week), things on the homefront need to be in order. I work outside of the home so for me that means having laundry done, menu planned, groceries bought and the house in some fashion of clean and picked up. With 2 teenage daughters that are involved in sports and school activities, you know what occupies our weeknights. And that’s ok because these years are flying by. I expend a lot of energy on Saturday to get all of this accomplished so that we can go to church on Sunday and then have an afternoon/evening of togetherness. Or naps.
What if you or your spouse works on Sunday?
Find another day to be your regular day off. Be purposeful about it, otherwise it could get filled up with errands and chores since it’s a work day for everyone else.
If you work at church, then Sundays can be the hardest day of the week. There are a lot of expectations on the family to be active and involved as well. When I was growing up my dad worked at church, and Sundays were filled with church services and activities with only a couple hours break in the afternoon. Frankly, Sundays were exhausting. My advice is to let it be OK for your kids not to have perfect attendance or be involved in too many church activities.