Helping to fix things or explaining why men still wear their oldest t shirt, Doug gives us the man’s perspective.
Most Valentine’s Day gifts are for women. What do guys want for Valentine’s Day?
–Hoping for flowers at the office in Houston
One of my favorite presents was a trip to the grocery store.
I remember the clear, cloudless day, sun shining down on me proudly pushing my cart into Central Market. Rachel was with me, and some friends who came along.
I picked up a steak and set it in the cart. Rachel said, “That’s great, Doug!”
I grabbed some chips. Rachel said, “That’s really great, Doug!”
I picked up some really expensive jam. Rachel said, “Yum, that will be really great, Doug!”
In fact everything I picked up got the same response from her (or very close to it), and that was my present: I could choose anything I wanted, and she could only say how great everything was. [Note from Rachel: This was in the days when we were paying off debt, and we had a really tight grocery budget, if you're wondering about this.]
So what did I get, besides some red AND yellow peppers?
I got what most men want. I was accepted.
This was a tough question. I could have handled tools, philosophy, or politics much easier than this one. Maybe the next question could be how many lights per foot do you plan for a Christmas tree.
What can you do to make a man feel accepted? I’ll suggest a few man-centric thoughts to you ladies out there… if you’re a man and reading this you can give me a silent fist bump.
It helps a man feel accepted when he knows that the things he has already done are more important than the things he has not done yet.
A guy likes it when a woman acts like she has everything she wants when she has him.
A man will notice if you listen to him.
I have no idea what it cost Rachel to make that trip to the grocery store with me. It was simply one of my best gifts. Find a way to make your man feel accepted, now that’s a Valentine’s Day present.
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Doug’s first job was in a meatpacking plant. He ran with the bulls in Pamplona. He’s read the works of C. S. Lewis. He’s manly, and he’s here to help.