Should You Keep the Baby Stuff You Might Want Later?


Lane, 3 months

I think we can all agree on what not to say to pregnant women. One time in the office break room as I was filling up my water glass for the tenth time, a guy said to me, “So, I know I’m not supposed to ask this, but are you pregnant?”

“Yes, I’m about five months pregnant,” I replied.

Then he said, “Oh okay, because you used to not look…that way.”

Honestly I thought it was funny; I’m not easily offended. I’m really glad for his sake that I was actually pregnant at the time.

Along those lines, I would like to suggest that one thing a pregnant woman should not say to a friend whose babies are growing up is, “So, you’re going to give me all of your baby stuff, right?” Because slow down, that question that sounds so direct really puts me on the spot.

It would feel better if that question were phrased in an indirect way, such as “I would love to receive some hand-me-downs, if you know anyone who wants to sell or give away their stuff.”

Heaven knows, I’m not trying to be greedy about my stuff, but that hits an emotional part of me that doesn’t know the future or if I’m ready to part with stuff yet. I’m sure you understand. (And yes, I probably do want to give you some of my stuff, but give me a few minutes to think about it so that it feels like my own idea.)

This week I’m sharing for discussion some of the baby questions that I receive most often in my inbox. Today’s question is:

What are your thoughts on keeping baby stuff that is expensive or not worn out that you feel you might use again (for the next baby, if there is one)?

I want you to know that I am not a minimalist, and I often keep something I might want in the future. I don’t feel the need to get rid of everything I’m not currently using.

I don’t keep everything, though, and this is what I consider:

1. How much room I have for storage. Right now I have a house with an attic, so I can save the crib (unassembled), car seat, and high chair. For several years, I lived in an apartment, and my options were limited. If I still lived in an apartment, I probably would only save the smaller things like baby carriers, a few clothes, and small toys.

Since I have the space, it’s worth saving those things for now, and I like having them available for guests.

2. How much hassle it is to replace. With my first pregnancy I spent of a lot of time reading product reviews and deciding what I wanted to have. I don’t really want to go through that again; it seems easier to keep what I already have, but my kids are still young, and (so far) they’re not spaced far apart.

I kept my maternity clothes (about two grocery bags full) because they are specific to me: my size, my colors, my style, so that I wouldn’t have to start over if I need them again.

I’ve also shared how I store and organize baby clothes, limited to just one bin per clothing size, since I’m not quite ready to give most of those away yet.

But for some things—a swing is just a swing, and you can easily find another.

3. How much something costs. I might want to save something because, wow, that [insert baby item] was expensive, and I only want to buy it once. That’s why I’d rather buy gear like baby swings used on Craigslist.

I didn’t plan to buy a baby swing, but my second baby was…shall we say, sensitive…and I needed something to help him sleep. It worked well for six weeks, until it didn’t, and you can see that swing took up my whole living room. I had bought it on Craigslist for $40, and then when it didn’t help us anymore I sold it for $60 instead of letting it take up space. So basically, I use Craigslist like my personal storage system, buying and trading as we need to.

4. How long something will be used. A jump-a-roo was fun for each of my kids for about two weeks, but then the novelty wore off when my baby figured out I was using it for a containment device. I sold the jump-a-roo to a consignment shop instead of storing it. When you sell stuff to a consignment shop, you can get about 40% of the price they sell it for, which isn’t much, but the stuff is no longer in your house.

So that’s what I think about when I’m deciding what to keep, and as time goes by I’ll keep less. I give things away gradually to different people as it feels right.

Now if you have some baby stuff laying around not being used, I don’t want to pressure you do anything about it, but just make a decision if you plan to keep it or not, so that it’s your choice. Then the stuff that you have is there by design.

What have you decided to do with old baby stuff? Let’s discuss it in the comments.
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Comments

  1. Oh this is so timely for me. We have two children and I think we’re done (although it breaks my heart a bit to type that). I am slowly starting to sell or pass on some of our things. Your point about the swing made me smile, as that’s one of the first things I sold! I am finding it so hard to part with clothes (I have saved one or two small items from when each child was a newborn, the rest is just in limbo – don’t need it, can’t part with it) and our pram (my parents and grandparents went in together to buy it for our first baby and I am over-the-top sentimental about it).

    • At the moment I don’t own anything that won’t fit in a Mazda (street cred) and I still think you should save the pram. You obviously love it. If at some point you feel that you could be graceful if it were broken, stolen, left in the rain, etc, pass it along to a family member then.

    • I wonder if that is a pram that still looks as good as it did, after your first child has been in it? I found that nowadays, there is so much fabric on these items that fades or is difficult to clean properly and the colour becomes unfashionable, too (not that I’m really interested in fashion, but it becomes obvious that the item is so-and-so old) and when a new baby comes along, you want to start fresh and new for that one, too… even if you buy new-to-you 2nd hand!
      (On the other hand, a good solid quality pram, a classic, can be used over and over – we used my DH’s 1960s pram for one of our daughters and it was fine because you could clean it properly.)
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  2. I have stored some and got rid of some. I found I had plenty I never used so there was no point in keeping or I wouldn’t in the future.
    I am single so I have no idea if I will ever have more children, but I know I would like more one day. Everything fits into a built in cupboard which would otherwise be empty and cannot be removed, so it really isn’t a problem to me
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  3. I just finished listing our exersaucer and bouncy seat on a local classified site. I plan on having more kids, but don’t have a lot of storage space, and they are such strange shapes and bulky, so they don’t stack neatly. :) One thing that is important to note is that car seats actually expire. They are only supposed to be used for 5 years because the plastic gets brittle and is not safe. My three kids came in 3 1/2 years so while I’ve used the infant carrier for all three kids, I’ve had to buy convertible/booster seats when they grow out of that.
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  4. I think what is tricky about this is that so many EMOTIONS are wrapped up in these decisions. And not to mention you are sleep-deprived when storing those itty bitt baby clothes. For the first few months, I just shoved all the clothes my son grew out of into boxes. Later, I started to keep only things I liked and that were in good condition, but I still have BOXES of junk clothes sitting in his closet that I cannot bring myself tot go through (last time I started crying when I opened a box. HELLO, HORMONES.)
    Ashley // Our Little Apartment´s last post…Buying Stuff Doesn’t Make Me Happy and Other Things I Must Remind Myself.

  5. I’m happy to be part of a community church with lots of young families. When one family is between babies we frequently loan out gear and clothes (with non-sentimental memories attached) to someone who is pregnant and get them back when the new baby has outgrown it. My son’s Bjorn has been used by several families–I’m happy to see it get some use, it’s not taking up room in my house, and I’ll get it back when I decide to have another kid. I loan stuff out hoping to get it back in the same condition, but realizing that life happens, and so do stains.

  6. We’re done with having babies (unless God has a really secret surprise plan), and I’ve gotten rid of most of the non-emotional stuff. I have a few items — maybe a small cardboard box full — that I’d love to see my grandchildren in someday. I only did this b/c it was so special when my MIL gave me items that my husband had worn and used as a baby. So sweet!

    • I’ve done the same thing – have a grandmother’s box! There are sweaters that my grandmother knit for my son, his favorite stuffed animal, and some good quality wooden toys.

    • Oh, I love the name “grandmother’s box”! My mom kept what she called a “baby box” of the special things she wanted to pass along to each of us.
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  7. Wow, I really struggle with this one. I’ve had one baby and hope to have at least one more in the future. And I can’t seem to part with ANY of it yet… I keep thinking I may need ALL of it! My son loved his jump-a-roo for a couple weeks, then didn’t, then loved it again a month later, etc. Am I a pack-rat? Well… maybe a little. But I am working on simplifying… Our church is having a Yard Sale this month and I have spent the last 2 months cleaning out my house and donating to it. Just not quite ready to let go of the baby stuff…yet. (I love your blog, by the way. It has been a major inspiration to me in my “simplifying” endeavors!) :)

    • It’s easier to give emotional items away to a specific family or baby that you care about instead of a general drop off or yard sale. So even if you keep all those things now, maybe later you’ll have an opportunity when you’ll want to give away some of those things, and time helps as well.

  8. I had already given away most of my baby clothes when we adopted our daughter, because my youngest son was 12 at that time. So, when we met my husband’s wife by coincidence and she asked me if I was interested in her daughter’s clothes I was really happy. The next week my husband brought home all those lovely baby clothes and he said: “She would like to have them back afterwards, just in case they decide to have a 3rd baby…”. I thought of all those baby stains my daughter would probably leave on those lovely baby clothes and I decided NOT to use them. I have kept the boxes in our closet FOR OVER A YEAR because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings, and then I even washed them and put them in a new clean box, just in case they wouldn’t smell fresh anymore after a year in a carton box (yes, I know!).
    So from that day on my first question if somebody offers me children’s clothes is always: “Do you want to have them back?”.
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    • That’s a good point, and I’ve done something similar by asking, “What would you like me to do with this when we’re done?” It’s so important to have realistic expectations when loaning/borrowing stuff. Exersaucers can seem indestructable, but other often-used baby gear starts to look worn after the second baby. Clothes get stained and worn, and I wouldn’t want new parents to worry about that. I think when loaning clothes, it’s best to think of it as a gift so there is less worry for all involved. If you do get some returned later, all the better.

    • …my husband’s boss’ wife… I meant to say :-))
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    • I agree. I try not to accept children’s clothes that I’m supposed to give back. I don’t want to spend my kiddo’s childhood making sure clothes don’t end up with permanent stains. I’m fine with borrowing/loaning bigger ticket items that are less likely to get ruined, but not clothes.
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  9. Sharon O says:

    I am not a young mom, but what advise I can give is to share. The expensive items can be shared among several mom’s who are in different time ‘frames’ and can use them. Yes car seats expire. Cribs do too. Eventually everything breaks down, but I personally have kept a few items my first grand daughter wore. She was a preemie so to see the tiny clothes is a wonderful reminder of how far she has come.
    With the economy the way it is now, I would shop retail stores minimally unless there is a great sale going on. (marshalls has good deals) It is an emotional issue.
    But it is also a blessing to bless someone else, and please if you are getting rid of ‘baby’ items think of your local Crisis pregnancy centers. Young mom’s usually don’t have alot of money.

  10. I was lucky that my sister loaned me some of the big items like an exersaucer and I just gave them back when we were done. Sharing/borrowing is so helpful for reducing how much you store.
    Much like you I only kept a few sets of clothing in each size, some of my maternity clothing and some of my most useful baby items like cloth diapers, my Moby wrap and Ergo baby carrier.
    The day has finally come and we are expecting baby#2 in January. I can honestly say I am thrilled we didn’t store and lug around loads of baby stuff for the last 2+ years. Instead other families made good use of those items.
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  11. I’ve borrowed a slew of larger baby items, but I did pack up a few boxes of baby clothes (one box for 0-6 mo, one box for 7-12, etc). Luckily, at each stage, we’ve gotten enough hand-me-downs to keep Peanut clothed! Here’s to hoping we aren’t done!

    One thing that I struggle with — years ago, I was all about minimizing (plus I was moving internationally and locally about every 6 months), and many times, I’d think “now where is…” and then realized I’d given it away/sold it… and I regretted it deeply. Now it makes so much more afraid of getting rid of stuff! And these are things I haven’t been able to replace, either. Argh, I’ve worked hard to get over these feelings, but its not easy!
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  12. After having 6 babies (my last at 47!) and collecting a little bit here and there from each one, I just recently decided that I would keep a few outfits to pass to each of my children for their own families. Just something that would be special to them. The rest, I bagged up and gave 5 garbage bagfuls to a pregnancy care center that has a stork room. I washed everything first and didn’t give away anything stained or ripped. Just things I would enjoy getting myself. :)
    I also had some clothing for an older child that I gave to a family in our church that is just making ends meet. So I was able to bless quite a few families as well as keep something special for my own.
    I still have baby furniture that I will also be donating. I couldn’t part with all of these things until I knew that I would no longer be having children. :)
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  13. I raised 8 children on one income with this motto: “Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.” :)

  14. i guess i have done a mixture of things with baby stuff. i have kept most clothes but glad i did since i have had 5 boys over 8 years. just at this point am i ready to pass some along, but i don’t think we are done yet so i still am holding onto a box per size. let’s face it, as much as i want a girl i could totally have another boy and the clothes would help!

    i have loaned out bouncy seat, exersaucer, swing, etc when my kids were in the wrong age for them and got them back when i needed them. i feel it is nice to see good use out of them. maternity clothes also have become community – different gals have passed stuff around who are the same/similar size for each others pregnancies. that way none of us have to own a ton of it ourselves. i may never be able to part with my wood cradle… it will probably be a passed done thing when my kids have kids – super sturdy and keepable for future generations.
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  15. When I was pregnant with our daughter, my husband and I were both active duty USAF. We found crib, changing table, and high chair in the base classifieds. To all of you wonderful Moms who “pass it on”, thank you.

  16. justnotthatmom says:

    I saved every single item from my first baby. I saved it for five whole years mostly because I was afraid of getting pregnant and being a single parent again. So, I wanted to be prepared. Finally, I gave it all away. A few months down the road, I became pregnant and a few months after that, a single parent. Luckily, I had a girl this time, so having gave away most of the clothes was not a huge deal. But…the crib, the car seat, the high chair, the toys, the books, the crib sheets, etc etc. I had to buy it all over again. Oops. Oh well. Live and learn (to not get pregnant by a jack***). :-)

  17. Well, fortunately for me, I know I’m done having babies. So, I’ve gotten rid of almost all of my baby stuff.

    I did keep a little bin of baby toys, which is SO handy for when my nieces and nephews visit. And I have my port-a-crib, which visiting babies use. I keep thinking hard about getting rid of that too, though.
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    • I love when people have a small basket of little toys for kids to play with when we visit. I think no matter how old my kids get, I’ll probably keep the play food and a few small cars and books for little guests. It helps the parents actually get to relax and talk when their children can play on the floor next to us.

  18. This is a real emotional issue for me. We have one child, and while we would like more children, the reality is that we will probably be blessed with an only child. I’m ok with that most days! God is good. :) I do have clothes stored, since I have room. I’m thinking of selling them in a yard sale next spring(keeping a few for sentimental reasons, of course). The larger items have been going out the door. I bought a high chair on Craigslist for $40, used it for 3 years and sold it for $50. :D Some of my other larger items I have given/loaned to a friend. She has been so deeply appreciative – if she had acted blase about any of it I know I would have found a different person to give/loan to.

    I just have to keep reminding myself that if God blesses us with another child, He will also provide the means to take care of that child too!

  19. When I was between babies I would lend the clothes out, fully realizing that they may not come back in the same shape they were delivered. I gave away some of the big short-lived things like the exersaucer but then when I wanted one again, I asked if anyone had one I could borrow.

    Also, my first and fourth/last child are 10 years apart. I needed so little equipment/toys for him because there was always someoen who wanted to hold or play with him.
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  20. I *just* started getting rid of my daughter’s old stuff … settling into the idea that there won’t be more!

    BUT.

    I really wish she hadn’t been such a big spewer … so many of these clothes etc are UNSELLABLE! :)
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  21. We have just had our third boy and this question has me thinking…I know we are done in the business of making little people but I am not ready to part with anything just yet. Yet as mentioned throughout the post & comments, some clothes are “too good” to throw out, or even for my own kids to wear. (little boys aren’t always as concerned about stains as I am!)Especially if required to give back to its original owners. So I will continue to hoard baby stuff until the emotional attachment passes or my husbands visit to the doctor for the “snip”is deemed a success. I say pass it on but don’t expect it to boomerang back to you or return in its original condition. Xlisa

  22. Ok girls don’t laugh, but….we have 5 grown sons, the youngest just turned 20 and the oldest is 27. We are preparing to move and I finally donated the most adorable snowsuit worn by son number 2 when he was about two. I can still see him with his head turned up to the sky catching snowflakes in that little suit….some things are difficult to let go of if only for emotional reasons and that’s ok too…

  23. I love the one bin idea for my preschooler who has too many outfits to choose from and prefers a rotation of a favorite bakers dozen. So the special outfits will be binned for storage for a future daughter or handed down to her if she has a daughter. Others are getting mailed back to the States to the next little girl cousin (my daughter is one of a couple dozen 2nd cousins in the family). There’s never any loss of options to pass down gently or never used clothing and shoes and gear to family or close pals. Regarding my maternity clothing… I have managed to save one black wrap dress that I loved, handed down several separates for work and going out, and tried to store a bin full of loungewear and pajamas and casual going out clothes. Tried is the operative word. While I was deployed to Afghanistan, my daughter was 13 months old and hubby had a couple of huge garage sales. He saw my bin in the storage and thought, hmmm, wifey is bound to buy new stuff next time. These will sell like hot cakes! I was irritated at first as there was a bit of emotional attachment to the single bin and then relieved as he didn’t sell the baby clothes in the bin next to my maternity clothes and then smiled when he said “do you know how many short fat little women there are in San Antonio who will pay a buck each for your clothes?” I guess he didn’t tell them they were my maternity clothes! He made nearly a grand on that yard sale!
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  24. I was actually eager to pass on the baby clothes after no 2. Especially as I had a boy after having a girl first. Storing them seemed to take up so much room. I even got rid of my maternity clothes as soon as I could. No more babies for us! Only to find out I was having an unexpected third 18 months after the second. I wasn’t bothered about the baby clothes- I got given a lot more and bought second hand. I missed the maternity clothes more because they are more expensive to replace. Here down under there seems to be a surplus of hardly worn baby clothes. Some Mums I know prefer to buy new for each child. My advice is to not think so much about it- it’s hard to predict what the future holds. In retrospect I’m so glad we have a third child.

  25. I have 4 kids aged 5 and under, and I got rid of a lot of baby things when my second baby came and I realized how impractical they were when there are multiple children. I loved the swing when there was one baby, but it’s not a safe place for a newborn when a toddler is on the prowl. We decided that co-sleeping fit our family’s style better, so we got rid of the crib. Clothing we keep. The best investment I’ve made as far as baby gear goes is my Storchenweige wrap. I’ve used it for 3 kids, with countless washings, and it’s held up great. Babies like it more than a swing, no need to worry about monitoring them when they are so close (I got rid of the baby monitor too!), and they don’t get bored when there is so much to see. So, keep what works, and don’t worry about keeping the “essentials” if they aren’t essential to your personal parenting style. Great post!

  26. So far I’m keeping the things I really like in the attic. Since we have the room, I’m okay with that. Most of my girl’s clothes are hand me downs that I have already passed on, but there are a few sentimental things I’m hanging onto for keepsakes or baby #2. I actually purposely bought gender neutral clothes so I could reuse it! But once we’re done having babies I’m going to be pretty stringent about what I actually keep. My in-law’s entire garage is full of every SINGLE toy and clothing piece my husband and his sister wore…it’s scary…
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  27. My three girls were born 1984, 1991 and 1995, so quite far apart.
    I kept EVERYTHING. Thinking I was being clever and thrifty and the next kid would wear this or that, use this or that.
    Friends, don’t do it. Keep only the absolute most basic stuff, pass the cute stuff on as fast as possible as long as it is fashionable. Borrow or lend bigger items: every baby is different.
    Believe me, you will either get a stack of stuff given or offered to you for each new baby, baby fashions DO CHANGE (!) and each one will require different equipment depending on type/character and there is always newer, cuter stuff around that you will be tempted with.
    Eventually, you could drown in all your stuff!
    I finally woke up in the late 90s to an enormous attic filled to the gills with stuff that would never get used. Eventually, after two more moves, I had only two boxes of girl things that were too cute/sentimental for me to give up, different things from each of my girls. My first grandchild was a boy! He did wear some of his mom’s basics – denim dungarees or more neutral things. Now we have a granddaughter, too. Only a very few items have made it through the years, they are either no longer what babies wear or despite careful storage have spoiled or are simply too precious. Hardly anything is really suited to be passed on and on. This held even between babies when there were 12 yrs between eldest and youngest.
    I know it is hard to believe that babies have fashion, but they do. Colours change, styles change, and most moms want to be on a level field with other moms and their kids. Now add a toddler’s own preferences to the mix…!! Some of them are really picky about what they like or not.
    My daughter struggles all the time with her kid clothes/equipment because the two kids are just different.
    What I did keep were a wooden train set and books, as well as years of accumulated Playmobil, some dress-up and a couple of dolls. All of these are popular with visiting kids and grandkids. But they still bring their own favourites when they come to visit, so…
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  28. Miranda H says:

    My mother, sister in law, and myself have a cache of “family” baby items. Large items that are expensive, yet only used for a short time- the bassinett, swing, etc. We pass them around from mom to mom as babies enter our family. Timing has seemed to work out well so far. Also, it is a nice sentiment to know that all our family babies have shared the same things. It also doesn’t hurt that my mom has a very large storage area in her garage.

  29. this is a great post, such an emotional topic. I have 2 beautiful girls and although I would love a third child, my husband is adamant that we are done. I’m just getting to the point where I’ve come to accept it (my youngest turns 3 in a few weeks). I am very sentimental (especially about the clothes, for some reason). The larger items I made sure to pass on to either family members, or in the case of the crib, I sold it on Craigslist to a nice local family. I gave the glider and ottoman away to a local charity that helps out pregnant women. They were completely understanding that it was the chair that I rocked my babies in, and I needed to know it went to a good home. The smaller items (bouncy seat, etc) I plan to sell in a garage sale. But the clothes…the clothes I just cannot part with, yet. I can remember getting some hand-me-downs when I was pregnant with my older daughter, and they were SO dated. So I definitely don’t want that to happen! But I just can’t let go yet!

  30. I just have to comment because that picture of Lane is absolutely adorable! I have two boys and two girls. The boys are 6 years apart and the girls are also 6 years apart. There were not very many clothes that could really be saved after they were about 3 or 4 years old because they were out of date. They were also born at different times of the year and were built differently. Most of their hand-me-downs came from cousins that were closer in age. If I were to do it again, I would not try to save as many clothes and I would limit the number of outfits they had. They just don’t need that many. I have saved one box of baby clothes because of sentimental reasons, and that’s it.

  31. I should mention that getting down to one box of baby stuff was not overnight. It was a process over time. :)

  32. Comment made to my friend, who was about 20 weeks pregnant at the time:

    “Are you pregnant, or just gaining weight?”

    Wow.
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  33. Alexandria says:

    WE kept all the baby stuff, but we had plenty of storage room and ended up having kids 2 years apart. My dh got snipped shortly after second was born, so I had no qualms getting rid of everything at that point.

    I honestly never understood the friends who kept having babies and had to keep buying everything over and over and over. I think it was more bad planning/no planning. I might have felt differently about my own plan if my kids ended up being many many many years apart. We had done absolutely everything gender neutral so we could re-use everything too.

    As others mentioned, all our baby stuff was being used by other family members when we weren’t using them. I think we got the short end of the stick because we were first and bought the most stuff. But by second baby they were able to return the favor with some other clothes (maternity and baby), etc.

  34. Keep nothing. Or at least keep only a few small items as momentos. Baby stuff becomes outdated so quickly, and is so costly, that it’s a shame to have any gear or clothes waiting in boxes when someone else could use it. Give it away. Swap it with a parent of siblings for toddler clothes and toys. Sell it on a stoop sale.

    Time and time again, I find that if I release what I don’t need, then I attract what I do.
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  35. I’m thinking my son may be a one and only child for me so we did sell most of our old stuff…. let me say for those of you not sure on what to keep/sell I highly recommend you sell your car seats as soon as your 100% sure you are done with them because of recalls they can be hard to sell I ended up trying to donate mine to a thrift shop who told me they’d take it but it basically was going in their dumpster. As far as I know it was not recalled but I had held on to it for 2 1/2 years and the consignment shop says they won’t take one over 2 years old from the manufactured date.

    ^^That’s just friendly food for thought advice, your choice but I wish someone had told me I wouldn’t have been so hesitant to sell my car seat!

    As a side note I have heart problems otherwise I might consider another child but for me it’s not an easy decision. It most likely requires a surgery I’d rather not have on my heart. We are thinking maybe fostering or adoption for more kids later on down the road as we do love parenting. :) My husband and I are gonna re-evaluate that discussion once our 3 yr old son is potty trained haha…

    Rachel your advice is spot on as always (I read ahead already to the next post after this, the more recent)! Wish I’d have had it back when I was expecting my son.

  36. Wow! I don’t even remember the question after looking at that TOTALLY BEAUTIFUL BABY!!!! God Bless….. and thanx for sharing the pictures.

  37. We’re just about to have girl #2 so I’m really glad I held on to everything. I’m hardly going to have to buy anything for her. And as for after that, I have two sisters-in-law that are both married and planning to have children within the next few years, so I’ll basically store the stuff for them until they are ready to go through it. Once all of my immediate family members have gone through everything, the rest of it is out!
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  38. yes, I passed along alot of our items to my brother and sister-in-law, and they gladly took them, but now they have a boy and we gave them girl clothes(the first adoption situation was going to be a girl) and they have had two showers and received duplicates of many of the equipment stuff we gave them! Geesh, I could have sold them at our garage sale if I knew that was the case! Make sure if you get items you utilize them or give them back! Or at least compensate the giver so they know you appreciate the gift.

  39. I kept a lot of stuff from #1 to #3. It worked out well as we saved a lot of money, had only boys, and didn’t have that much baby stuff to begin with. However, now that the baby is growing up I’m getting rid of EVERYTHING as fast as I can. Had we had a little bit of extra money (we made less than 20k until we got pg with our 3rd) I would have gotten rid of everything and bought new.

  40. Your story about the guy at the water cooler reminds me of my friend who has a perpetual large stomach after 6 kids. A few years ago someone wished her luck with her pregnancy. “Oh I’m not pregnant she said, just fat” The other woman was tripping over herself in apology…”Oh don’t worry about that” my friend said “I’d rather be fat than pregnant”

  41. We live in a small 1 bedroom apartment (in NYC) with 3 kids. It’s been a process but I can’t say I will keep anything of my children’s. Whats the point? Its just stuff. Scratch that. I made a dress for my daughter when she was 3 years old and she loved it (never any other clothes I made her). That would be it.

    If there is anything that seems special I will (and have) take a photo of it. That takes a lot less storage space. It hasn’t been easy getting to this point. But sentimentality takes a lot of time, effort and space when tied to “stuff”. I throw out the gross, use Craigslist constantly, and pass on the rest to friends. It’s all replaceable.